Yes to this! I have often wondered how much of this is a problem for women vs men. We are so trained to be the nice girls. I think I’ve been trapped in very similar situations... who hasn’t with these MLM schemes too? Or solicitors! I bet because you’ve taken the time to write this and share it that you will be better about saying no when you mean no next time.
Thank you for your comment and validation. I guess it is more than just a Canadian thing then, eh? lol I do believe I will be better at saying no, now that I have taken the time to think deeply about the regretful yeses I have given. ;)
Jul 19, 2023·edited Jul 19, 2023Liked by Patricia Meier
Yep. I feel you. I'm the same way. I just listened the Podcast "On Purpose" hosted by Jay Shetty about "people pleasing." Highly recommend. He offers some very helpful tips. To Stephanie's point, he mentions a YouGov poll from 2022 where 51% of women respondents said that they thought they would be described as "people pleasers." The tips that resonated with me were learning to say "No" in a nice way and not over-apologizing. The other great take-away is the practice of communicating our needs to ourselves. Jay Shetty suggests asking yourself this question every morning: "What's the one thing I have to do today to make this a great day." I've been practicing saying no this week and it's been pretty liberating. I hope I can stick with it. https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/7-signs-youre-a-people-pleaser-7-methods-to-break-this-habit/id1450994021?i=1000619764297
Well done and thank you for the link! The other thing that I need to remind myself of often is that No or No, thank you are complete sentences. I do not owe the gent at the door from Plan Canada an explanation at all...
Yes to this! I have often wondered how much of this is a problem for women vs men. We are so trained to be the nice girls. I think I’ve been trapped in very similar situations... who hasn’t with these MLM schemes too? Or solicitors! I bet because you’ve taken the time to write this and share it that you will be better about saying no when you mean no next time.
Thank you for your comment and validation. I guess it is more than just a Canadian thing then, eh? lol I do believe I will be better at saying no, now that I have taken the time to think deeply about the regretful yeses I have given. ;)
Yep. I feel you. I'm the same way. I just listened the Podcast "On Purpose" hosted by Jay Shetty about "people pleasing." Highly recommend. He offers some very helpful tips. To Stephanie's point, he mentions a YouGov poll from 2022 where 51% of women respondents said that they thought they would be described as "people pleasers." The tips that resonated with me were learning to say "No" in a nice way and not over-apologizing. The other great take-away is the practice of communicating our needs to ourselves. Jay Shetty suggests asking yourself this question every morning: "What's the one thing I have to do today to make this a great day." I've been practicing saying no this week and it's been pretty liberating. I hope I can stick with it. https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/7-signs-youre-a-people-pleaser-7-methods-to-break-this-habit/id1450994021?i=1000619764297
Well done and thank you for the link! The other thing that I need to remind myself of often is that No or No, thank you are complete sentences. I do not owe the gent at the door from Plan Canada an explanation at all...