Yesterday, we met with my mom’s health care team to talk about her future requirements and next steps in her journey. My mom has been in hospital, followed by rehabilitation since the end of January. They think, but are not certain, that she had a minor stroke in January, which led to an inability to get out of bed, then a trip to the ER. Mom would like to return home to her spouse and her life cheering on the Blue Jays. This is not what her health care team recommends.
It is heartbreaking to see someone you love unable to be in their own home. Her desires in life are simple; to sit on her coach, with the man she loves, and enjoy sports, true crime shows, and crochet. Her mobility does not make this possible.
My job is to find a facility that will take care of her needs and also provide an opportunity for social activities, and peace.
This is hard. It is hard for her to manage massive change in her 70’s and hard for me to be the one making these decisions. What if I get it wrong? What if she is not happy, or worse, not properly cared for?
These are such emotional decisions for all involved.
Now you know what is occupying my time and mind. I promise to get back to Weird and Wonderful stories about hypnosis and reiki soon.
In Oneness,
~~Patricia (Patty) Meier
It is really tough. I am going through similar and so much guilt involved. So hard to change the relationship to being a care giver, so much sadness too. Good luck on your journey with this.
This is so difficult. I’ve been there with my mother and it is not an easy time of life. My mother and I did become close, and we had a nice relationship. We are (in our 70’s) doing everything I can to age in place. We widened doors, removed carpet and tubs, added lighting, and have a 4’ x 6’ curbless shower with grab bars. Hopefully we can stay here.
You will make a good decision for your parents. Ditto what Stacy said about self care and good vibes.