Self-forgiveness is the key to Self-Love
How many times a day are you the mean girl in your own movie?
If I could wave a magic wand, I would be able to write about and present Being Love in such a manner that it would open up people’s hearts to truly LOVE themselves. They would realize that there is nothing that they have done that does not deserve forgiveness, with very few exceptions. The majority of us have not done anything unforgiveable and in truth, the people we think we have slighted may not even remember the incident that we are obsessing about.
It is my belief that most of the pain people feel in the world is due to a lack of self-love and self-compassion. When I take people on a hypnotic journey to the Interlife, they are always surprised to find out how much their etheric team loves and honours their choice to come to earth for their human experience. Those on the other side recognize how difficult it is to be in this dense place. I would love to be able to create this understanding for more people whether it is through private sessions where they can experience it firsthand or some other way.
I would love to create an online community who not only read my blog and who participate in a conversation about what they have read, what their personal experiences are, and what is standing in their way of self-forgiveness.
Many people have gone through trauma in their lives, a great number of them experienced that trauma at the hands of the people who they expected to love and protect them. It may be really difficult to forgive the people who hurt them; my suggestion is that they begin by forgiving themselves. Forgive themselves for taking on the title of victim, instead claiming the fact that they are a survivor. If you are still here, living this life after trauma, you are indeed a survivor! Forgive yourself for staying quiet about the abuse and for anything else that arises from that experience.
Ho’oponopono is the Hawaiian ritual for forgiveness and it consists of four statements:
I’m sorry
Please forgive me.
Thank you
I love you.
Look in the mirror, gaze into your own eyes and say these things out loud, to yourself. As feelings and memories arise, feel them, then let them run through you like water… down into Mother Earth to be transmuted into LOVE. Set a timer on your phone for ten minutes or start with less time if ten minutes seems impossible right now; increase the time as you are ready until you reach the full ten minutes. Progress is when you can say the following to yourself and truly mean it:
I love you.
You will be surprised as to what comes up to be forgiven. For myself, I forgave myself for marrying and having children with my first husband, for buying such a big house and spending all my inheritance from my dad on material things, rather than investing in my future. There are so many things that I have released, but it took time.
This exercise is not about fault, blame or shame. Our experiences have purpose and they shaped who we are today. We come to Earth as spiritual beings to have a human experience and that includes feeling the full range of emotion available here. We are not meant to define ourselves by a single experience and remain there, but to learn and grow from life’s lessons.
Love and accept all versions of yourself.
There are times where I was cutting and mean to others, times where I was competitive and downright ugly. I found compassion for those versions of me who could not see my own greatness. I believed EVERYONE else was better than me.
I love that version of me. I forgive her and I do Ho’oponopono for those who she may have hurt when she was hurting and filled with self-loathing. I cannot change who I was then, and frankly, I have finished apologizing and chastising myself.
I know better now therefore I do better now.
I am not going to pretend that I have always been loving and kind to everyone. I was not. I have not. I am now nearly always loving, kind and compassionate, except sometimes driving in the car when I lose my temper and say things I do not mean and am not proud of. I am working on driving in peace and achieving it more than half the time behind the wheel. I no longer curse every black truck I see due to unresolved issues about my ex-husband’s black truck, which was a point of contention in our marriage; sometimes, I even let them in front of me in traffic when they signal.
If you take the time to look back on your life, you may be amazed at the things you have experienced and survived. If you take the time to work through all the things that arise you can choose forgiveness for yourself and possibly for the ones who did harm to you. It is a process though and to use a cliché, forgiveness work really is like peeling an onion. We peel back a layer, cry some and then discover another; they get smaller and we move through them more quickly and easily as we go because self-love grows, fortifying us for the next and the next and the next challenge in our mind.
The world has taught us that loving ourselves is wrong. In fact, the world is wrong! We are all sparks of one Divine Light, All That Is, or God/Goddess if you prefer. When we turn our backs on our own divinity, we turn our backs on our creator. It is more shameful to despise yourself when you consider this, than it is to love yourself, in my opinion. There is nothing wrong with appreciating yourself exactly as you are!
My greatest wish for you is that you Love Yourself, Accept Yourself, as you are today. Right here, right now; not 10 pounds lighter, not $10 richer. Right flat out now! As is, no warranties or discounts applied.
Just Love You!
Patricia Meier & The Light of Orion
What if you could just love and accept yourself exactly as you are right now? Do you really need to wait until some infinitesimal thing has changed for you to begin feeling good about being you in the skin you are in?
We spend a lot of time as women (and men) analyzing and trying to fix the things we think are not quite right. We should spend more time appreciating the things that we do like.
Quote from the Dove commercial linked above.
If I could wave a magic wand, I would love for everyone who comes to the My Weird and Wonderful Life newsletter, everyone who comes to me for a private session, to a talk, or who randomly meets me on the street to feel three things from me:
Loved
Connected
Enough
Start today by finding just one thing to LOVE about yourself and focus on that for the whole day. How can you expand that quality, bring it front and centre for more of your daily interactions? The first step is all it takes. Maybe day two, you start the Ho’oponopono forgiveness ritual described above. I would love to hear how you are doing and if anything in this blog made an impact on you.
All my love and light,
Patricia.
Your dedication to your mission and the high vibrations you send out to the universe touches my higher heart and lifts me up when experiencing dense energies. Thank you for your beautiful messages.
Namasté ❤️🌹
Thank you for this.
Firstly, because you wrote it so beautifully and it is so needed. Secondly, because I was going to do the Ho’oponopono ritual at my retreat next week and wasn't sure about it all of a sudden. So this morning I asked the universe to give my gut a sign that its a good idea and just a little while later this newsletter rolled in. Sign! Thank you!