Honouring the Divine Masculine

More Than a Few Good Men...

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Bonus content this month to honour the men in our life for Men’s Mental Health month…

As a consulting hypnotist, Reiki, and Sound Healing practitioner, I have the good fortune to assist male clients as well as female and non-binary. I say good fortune because I am honoured to be even a small part of their spiritual awakening.

The following blessing is on the postcards that I hand out for Sparks of Healing:

My greatest wish for you is that you Love Yourself. Accept yourself, as you are today. Right here, right now. Not ten pounds lighter, not ten thousand dollars richer. Right now, flat out, as is, no warranties or discounts are applied.

Just Love You!

Patricia (Patty) Meier

This wish applies to both men and women. It is my firm belief that we do not need a matriarchy to take over from the patriarchy. We need balance; part of this balance requires that men be given permission to love themselves and to bring forward their caring, nurturing sides.

I was blessed with one daughter and three sons; my sons are all grown ranging from twenty-eight to thirty-two, providing me with lots of time to understand their hopes, fears, and dreams. I recognize that these men feel as deeply as I do; gender has nothing to do with having empathy, compassion, and a deep capacity for love.

There are commonly held beliefs in the world of what a “real man” is; many of these stereotypes leave no room for sensitivity. I have had clients say that in their work capacity, they are shunned for having empathy towards their employees, peers, and customers; they are told just to make money and get the job done quickly. There is no room for pride in workmanship or compassion for others.

When I was younger, I heard the women in my family say that men have no feelings. I remember believing that to be true. I did not know any better; certainly, the men in my family did not seem to have care for those around them. They were harsh, critical; bullying others to get their way, using mental and emotional abuse to control others.

I learned how incorrect these beliefs were through relationships with male friends who trusted me, who showed their true selves to me along with what matters to them in the deepest, most private places in their hearts. The further I ventured away from home, the more I recognized how incorrect my understanding had been.

Fast forward many decades to the present. I am in a loving relationship with a sensitive and strong man. It is possible for a man to be both. I wish for all the men in the world know this.

I hereby grant all men permission to have feelings and to share those feelings with someone they trust.

My hope for every client I see is to help them open up their heart just a little bit wider to let Love come in. I want everyone to Love themselves fully and completely; to forgive themselves for anything they are holding in the shadows of their heart that is taking away from the ability to love themselves. Every human being, in any way they identify themselves, should have self-compassion and SELF-LOVE.

Back to men specifically… What is a Real Man anyways?

Social media of old and unfortunately some in our current time would have us believe that “most men” are only interested in sex, alcohol, gaming, sports, and money. On top of this, men are subject to societal norms that do not allow them to express feelings.

“Real men” are out there bringing home the bacon, sacrificing their bodies to sports or jobs that endanger their very lives. What is the purpose of that and where did it begin? I guess it is easier to enlist men into the roles of protector, to get them to risk their very lives if they believe that is what they were made for? I completely disagree.

True men indeed have feelings; they have needs, and contrary to popular belief, they are not always DTF; they also like to be wooed at times, to know they are desirable, just like women.

Hollywood portrays women as helpless without a man and in the same frames, they are setting men up to believe they must have the answers, be the hero, and always be strong, no matter what. Neither portrayal is true.

My practice is a safe place for men to speak what is on their mind and open their hearts. It is a safe place to share their fears and heal trauma. I believe the world needs to make more space for men’s healing, where they have permission to feel their feelings, have compassion for others and most importantly to love themselves.

A balanced human…

From an energetic perspective, we all have masculine and feminine aspects within us; we come from the union of sperm and egg. We all have the same bodily systems, with a few obvious exceptions; blood flows through our veins, tears can flow from our eyes; our hearts can swell with pride or break in two.

The chakra system attributes the sacral chakra to the feminine and the solar plexus to the masculine. We need balance within our own energy systems to honour both aspects of our humanness.

I want to live in a world where people care about each other, where people live their own dreams, not the life path someone else laid out for them.

A world where people are centred within themselves, where they are not constantly taking from others in order to fill some endless void in their hearts.

A world people trust each other and where people in relationships can have honest communication to ask for what they need, and authenticity give freely as they wish to, not what they think they should be based on some crazy ideal.

While facilitating sessions for me, I invite them to let their feelings out, including tears. There is no shame in crying; science says that releasing tears biologically shifts the mind in a positive way. Let feelings rise up, be felt, and then let them go. True feelings have information for us, it is important to take the time to feel any emotion that arises, ask it what it needs us to know, and then release it. Keep only the good, supportive feelings; hanging on to anger, jealousy, fear, or any other low vibration emotions in the body creates a fertile ground for illness to breed.

My wish is that men be free to speak their minds; discuss their fears, hopes, dreams, and feelings opening without concern that having these feelings impacts their manliness.

I hope every person on earth opens their heart to love themselves, that those hearts overflow with love that spills out to every other creature on earth. That is a world I would love to live in.

In Oneness,

Patricia (Patty) Meier