Have you ever noticed that there are people around whom you must watch your step? I call this being with people who have eggshells scattered around them and my friend Nicole condensed that to Eggshell People. I like that phrase; I do not enjoy those people much.
What I am talking about are the people who I cannot be my full self around. If I am having success in life, I cannot tell them because they will launch into all the terrible things that are happening in their life. There is no room for me to be doing well without it being a reflection on their current state. There is no room for victory because they are too sad or down to take a moment to see outside themselves.
Another type of Eggshell Person is maybe more like a Bombshell Person where what looks like simple eggshells are land mines. These are the ones who can spout off on any topic with all the vitriol they have inside; harsh emotion and even harsher energy darts but heaven help me if I open my mouth to present a different point of view or ask them a question about their beliefs. I will either be cut down to the quick or left in a room by myself, they have stormed out and slammed the door behind them.
These people are tiresome. It is exhausting to have to edit my personality before I spend time with someone. I just want to be me and if I require being called on my bullshit, by all means, do so with respect and love.
In the past, I self-identified as a fixer, a rescuer whose job it was to help these people see the sunnier side of life. I saw their faults and knew exactly what they needed to do and be to have their best life. Judge much?! What a lot of time and energy I put into trying to fix something that the other person did not even view as broken. That time is gone. I am not sure if it is an age or energy thing, but I have no interest in being a fixer anymore.
Hang on there, Patricia! Arenโt you a healer? How can you say that you do not want to help fix people anymore. Why yes, I am but did you know that healers do not actually heal people? Healers are proficient at asking questions and guiding people to their own inner strengths and wisdom so they can heal themselves. Anyone who thinks they are a grand healer who can get Jesus like results, is stuck in the fixer, rescuer stage of life. Jesus led people to their own greatness through love and empowerment. I believe they, like Dr. Usui of Reiki fame, found that people might be healed in their presence but staying healthy requires some follow-up work on the part of the individual.
When someone comes to me for a Reiki or any other energetic session, I am channeling Universal Energy through me to them from my hands or in the case of Sound Healing, through my voice. They need to have open channels to receive, and they must allow that energy to shift them; nothing will happen without their consent. That is the promise of the gift of Free Will.
Back to our Eggshell Peopleโฆ I cannot help but wonder what it is they get from being that way? Are they drawing the rescuer types to them to pander to their needs and validate their strong opinions. Why is it threatening for someone to oppose their beliefs. Are they afraid that to consider another side of a situation might make them wrong? Does opening the door of possibilities let in a breeze so strong that it might mess up their entire existence? I do not know but what I do know is I enjoy having my beliefs messed up and rearranged from time to time. It enlightens and expands me.
There is an example of an extreme type of Eggshell People in the news right now, here in Canada. Bombshell and Eggshell People are uniting, organizing marches, while the current government is making it illegal for children to choose their pronouns in school without notifying their parents first. The marchers are also protesting SOGI123 (Sexual Orientation and Gender Identity) programs in public schools; a program this is meant to normalize all genders and orientations, to ensure students never feel abnormal, and they are taught the language to express themselves and their identities. This is one example where the loud, unyielding ones would prefer that everyone just keep their otherness stuffed in the closet, where they believe it belongs.
Eggshell people cannot handle that other people might have different ideas than they do and wonโt accept the world changing to be more inclusive; the belief in space for every single person to be able to express who they are.
I am done worrying about those shells and landmines. I think it is time to speak up for peace, tolerance, compassion, and love for all humanity. As always, I send them love and respect their right to live lie as they see fit, I might just crunch them a little by being myself.