A Rose may be a Rose but I am not Pat

Why names matter...

I woke up with words today so here I am at the page at 6:15 AM.

My name is Patricia, to be exact my name is Patricia Ann Meier, nee Griffiths and for twenty-two years, Kennedy. Most people know me as Patty. Names are words, proper nouns to be exact and words have power.

When I was a little girl, my mom called me Patti with an “i,” that felt weak to me, too open, too childish; when I learned to write, I changed it to a “y.” PATTY. It felt stronger to me somehow. Patricia felt too big, too grown up, like someone I would need to live up to; a name I was not ready for yet.

One branch of our family tree liked to call me Pat. I hated it and would correct them to say, my name is Patty or Patricia, definitely not Pat. This encouraged them to call me Fat Pat, instead.

This branch of the family tree was gnarled; lean and mean.

Words have power. Names are words. Spoken words have more power than written. I did not have the power as a young child to make them stop, I did not have the power as a young girl to block their words from painting a perception of who I am to the world.

In 2011, I left my first marriage. I left the father of my four children to reclaim my power, my authority over who I am. I could not continue to expand while with him. I outgrew the confines of my marriage and his picture of who I am. It was exhausting cramming who I wanted to be back into the box he was comfortable with, so I left. As scary as that was, I chose me. To stay would not have been to choose life. It would have been a slow death of my light which was already evident through the state of my physical and emotional bodies.

I chose freedom to become myself. Sometime after that, I chose to reclaim my full name. I decided to start introducing myself as Patricia.

People in North America are strange as they do not honour our names as presented. I do not know if it is laziness, familiarity, or some sort of strange tradition, but many do not honour names. For a long time, if I said my name was Patricia, they would assume it was fine to call me Pat. With this decision to reclaim the full power of my name, came an inner strength that allowed me to say NO. No, I am not Pat. I am Patricia or Patty if you prefer, but never, ever Pat.

Names have power. Remember the fairy tale Rumpelstiltskin? The queen is able to break the terrible pact she made with this evil imp simply by saying his name.

Claiming my name was another step towards owning my power.

Patricia definition: a female given name of Latin origin.; Derived from the Latin word, patrician, meaning Noble.

Urban dictionary states the following of Patricia: Very imaginative, wishes to travel the world. Quiet and thoughtful, independent, creative through art and music. Compassionate, peaceful, caring. Friendly, first comes off as shy, but once you get her to talk, she finds her comfort zone. Gentle, sensitive; may get hurt by the truth a lot. Does not like being called a bitch, even though she pretends to.

Claiming my name, my full name felt powerful to me. Claiming my power in one area empowered me to claim it in other areas of my life also.

Words have power. Hypnosis is the art of stringing words together in a way that unites their power. A hypnotist weaves words together into a magical web. I like to describe what I do this way.

I am a hypnotic tour guide who takes you to the places you need to go, to do that work you need to do in order to heal.

I know the words to use, to unlock the magic in your mind, in your highest self. I will help you ask the questions to find the answers you seek. I cannot do the work for you, but I can be your trusted guide to travel to all the places you must go to heal. The name you choose to identify with in hypnosis matters.

We can choose healing. We can choose health and wellbeing. We can choose to live life with grace and ease. Those choices are available to one and all.

We can choose to don the full mantle of who we truly are and tell the world our name.

Whether it is your name or your pronouns, you have a right to choose how you are to be identified. Numerology teaches us about the power in our name. My favourite site for numerology and angel numbers is here.

Let me know if you take the time to play with your numerology. What did you learn? Will this change the name you claim?

Thank you for spending some of your precious moments with me. Time is the only true thing we have to spend, I appreciate you!